Why NOT to Make Happiness Your Goal

Could you will yourself to be happier? 

"You choose your own state of mind", is something we frequently hear. 

But is that the truth? 

Can you simply force yourself to be happy? 

In recent years a few studies have uncovered that effectively attempting to make yourself happier has the inverse impact… 

You may wind up imagining that happiness simply isn't achievable for you. 

 Why? 

Going for happiness is similar to stating "I'm going to get fit this year!"

What does fit even mean? 

Such ambiguous goals often leave you disappointed in the results. And studies show that when happiness is your primary goal - the same problem is apparent. 

It's as if you began a marathon and someone neglected to paint the finish line. 

You will undoubtedly quit running and say "What the heck?.. How am I not there yet, I've been making a decent attempt. Perhaps it's simply not practical for people like me." 

A startling thought to have, isn't it?

I know because I've felt it.

At a certain point I about abandoned each and every one of my wellness and organizing objectives – dismissing them with the line "I'm not wired for that." I verged on settled for mediocrity as a result of thoughts just like that… 

But new research has shown that simply changing your objective to something more specific but still related to your end goal of happiness is the best practice.

You must try to organize positivity in your day by day life. 

What does that mean? 

It's different for everyone but you should look to take the activities you really enjoy (sports, hobbies, time relaxing) and put them at the highest point of your schedule. 

When you plan positivity into your day, just as you would work or chores, you start using one of the least demanding but most effective strategies to bring more happiness in your life.

So begin making time for the things you love and take it seriously.

Email alert during your time for positivity? It'll have to sit for awhile, you’re not available - instead, you're doing anything else in the world. It is your life afterall.